Getting over a relationship is not always easy. It’s ideal to get a closure, but in reality, things are always different. If you are unable to deal with ugly fights, phone calls and mails post a break, its time for you to take stock of the situation. Brace yourself and end things. Here’s a list of dos and don’ts on your way out…
There’s a world beyond him
Be around positive people. Make sure you do not cross each other’s paths until you are at peace with yourself. Like Dia Rai, a media person says, “There’s a lot more you can do than mull over him, so do not alien ate yourself. This will only make you feel miserable about your situation. Instead, vent out your emotions whenever required. If not to a person, write a diary.”
Make your personality your priority
Damaging your personality will cause you more trouble than anything else. Since you want to focus on other things, this is the best time to concentrate on your career. Work hard and prove yourself. Appreciation from colleagues will boost your morale and make you feel better.
Don’t revisit memories
Do not dwell on the past. Old, happy photographs with your ex may transport you to the past, forcing you to believe that there may be some hope. Do not fall into the trap. Stop stalking your former flame’s social media updates. Focus on things which will make you happy. Keeping yourself abreast with what he/she is doing will not make life any easy.
Be social
Make plans with your friends, watch a movie or step out for coffee. You have all the right to enjoy yourself. “If you are going to be judged for being happy , it surely shouldn’t bother you, since you do not owe a justification to anyone. You are the sole reason for your happiness and sorrow, so make the best choice,” says Swapna Sinha, who recently got over a troubled relationship.
Expert speak
“The key to moving on is to accept the break up and not be in denial. In the beginning, a feeling of unhappiness will persist, but you will have to let go.Keeping yourself busy will work wonders. The easier path is to forgive and move on. Do not build negative feelings, just be cordial with your ex in case you bump into him/her. The thought of being friends is a little hypothetical. Live in the present and keep your mind in sync too, it may help you recover better.”
Take up an activity
Try and invest your time in exercise or outdoor activities.Keeping yourself busy may be an apt thing to do. Take time out to pursue your fitness or hobby , this is the right time to begin.And don’t just make it a plan for the time being, but one that is long-term. It is important to be in love with yourself first.If you will be positive and cheerful, life will automatically look brighter.