People often advise that keeping to yourself post a breakup is not a good idea. Some even believe that being alone can actually lead to depression. However, some counsellors feel that being alone has its advantages and is perhaps the best way to deal with a broken heart.
Other couples will remind you of him/her
The more you venture out, you’ll come across people, and couples will go around cozying up unapologetically and engaging in PDA, which otherwise is a really common thing, but might not go firm well with you while you are in this frame of mind. In fact, more of such small instances might trigger your emotions which worsen the condition even more. In fact, to make it worse, you might just bump into him/her and another sleepless night will follow.
People will not stop asking questions
Simple questions might start annoying you, for instance a waiter asking you if you need a table for two when you enter a restaurant or some friend meeting your after a long time might just ask about your partner and there you have to go again explaining the whole thing or just sit there fighting with your inner self to calm down.
Unnecessary sympathies will come your way
Well, friends are always by our side during such testing times, but do we really need them to console us, rather sympathise with us, when all we need is some ‘me’ time. Although it might seem that such concerns are appreciated as they seem to calm the person down to some extent, it is not true. “In fact, sympathising doesn’t help; in turn the mind just keeps going through old memories, which is not a good thing for someone who’s trying hard to keep away from them,” says Radhika Nagar, a relationship counsellor.
You might attract unwanted attention
You might just come across an old crush and he/she might start giving you hints all over again or some random person might just hit on you while you are at a club trying to divert your mind. “Being around people is never a good idea, although it is touted to be one. In fact, a person tends to take wrong decisions during such times, and that’s exactly when rebounds happen; most of which do not last,” says Priyanka Gujral, a clinical psychologist.